My goals for this year:
-Reserve time for God.
-Stop being so lazy in all aspects of my life: school, social, work, etc.
-To attend more than 1 basketball game.
-Get involved in at least one extracurricular.
-Find some volunteer work.
-Make a new friend.
-Be a little more friendly towards people.
-Do something out of my comfort zone.
-Actively keep in touch with those I always think about.
-Have a healthy relationship with food.
-Tap into my creative side.
-Keep the promises I’ve made to people and to myself.
My arms and hands are getting tired from wielding a sword so big.
Sweat beads dripping down my face with my hair flaring everywhere.
Its so quiet I can hear myself breathe.
Exhaustion slowly creeping up and telling my body to just stop trying.
There’s no giving up because burning for eternity is not an option.
But its getting so difficult to try with so many obstacles in the way.
All the things this world brings are not the most worthy opponents.
Until my greatest opponent steps up and challenges how far I’ve come.
And then I realize I’m looking at myself…
I secretly wish:
-I was a vampire. Not like the ones in Twilight, those are wack. Either like the ones in Blade or Underworld. I grew up loving vampires because of an old movie called Interview with the Vampire. They’re supposed to be badass and they don’t sparkle in the sun.
-I could be one of those girls who could put their relationship on blast on Facebook. Like plastering pictures and making gross comments on his page, the whole shebang. But only sometimes…rarely…okay almost never though.
-I could be on Jersey Shore or Real World. So, I could just be so ridiculous and stupid and not give a rats butt what people say or think about me.
-I was naturally talented at something. Like music, dancing, acting, or be extremely intelligent. I’m jealous of people who could be so gifted it takes little effort to do what they do.
-I could be emo just so I could have all the piercings and tattoos I want. And maybe dye my hair a ridiculous color.
-I could just get married right now. I’m tired of looking and waiting. I’m ready to settle down with the one person who’ll be my best friend for life. It’ll be nice to share some of my memories, wants and desires, and every day little things with someone else.
Dear Class of 2011,
As you begin your college experience, and I prepare for my 10-year college reunion, I thought I’d leave you with the things that, in retrospect, I think are important as you navigate the next four years. I hope that some of them are helpful.
- Your friends will change a lot over the next four years. Let them.
- Call someone you love back home a few times a week, even if just for a few minutes.
- In college more than ever before, songs will attach themselves to memories. Every month or two, make a mix cd, mp3 folder, whatever - just make sure you keep copies of these songs. Ten years out, they’ll be as effective as a journal in taking you back to your favorite moments.
- Take naps in the middle of the afternoon with reckless abandon.
- Adjust your schedule around when you are most productive and creative. If you’re nocturnal and do your best work late at night, embrace that. It may be the only time in your life when you can.
- If you write your best papers the night before they are due, don’t let people tell you that you “should be more organized” or that you “should plan better.” Different things work for different people. Personally, I worked best under pressure - so I always procrastinated… and always kicked ass (which annoyed my friends to no end). ;-) Use the freedom that comes with not having grades first semester to experiment and see what works best for you.
- At least a few times in your college career, do something fun and irresponsible when you should be studying. The night before my freshman year psych final, my roommate somehow scored front row seats to the Indigo Girls at a venue 2 hours away. I didn’t do so well on the final, but I haven’t thought about psych since 1993. I’ve thought about the experience of going to that show (with the guy who is now my son’s godfather) at least once a month ever since.
- Become friends with your favorite professors. Recognize that they can learn from you too - in fact, that’s part of the reason they chose to be professors.
- Carve out an hour every single day to be alone. (Sleeping doesn’t count.)
- Go on dates. Don’t feel like every date has to turn into a relationship.
- Don’t date someone your roommate has been in a relationship with.
- When your friends’ parents visit, include them. You’ll get free food, etc., and you’ll help them to feel like they’re cool, hangin’ with the hip college kids.
- In the first month of college, send a hand-written letter to someone who made college possible for you and describe your adventures thus far. It will mean a lot to him/her now, and it will mean a lot to you in ten years when he/she shows it to you.
- Embrace the differences between you and your classmates. Always be asking yourself, “what can I learn from this person?” More of your education will come from this than from any classroom.
- All-nighters are entirely overrated.
- For those of you who have come to college in a long-distance relationship with someone from high school: despite what many will tell you, it can work. The key is to not let your relationship interfere with your college experience. If you don’t want to date anyone else, that’s totally fine! What’s not fine, however, is missing out on a lot of defining experiences because you’re on the phone with your boyfriend/girlfriend for three hours every day.
- Working things out between friends is best done in person, not over email. (IM does not count as “in person.”) Often someone’s facial expressions will tell you more than his/her words.
- Take risks.
- Don’t be afraid of (or excited by) the co-ed bathrooms. The thrill is over in about 2 seconds.
- Wednesday is the middle of the week; therefore on wednesday night the week is more than half over. You should celebrate accordingly. (It makes thursday and friday a lot more fun.)
- Welcome failure into your lives. It’s how we grow. What matters is not that you failed, but that you recovered.
- Take some classes that have nothing to do with your major(s), purely for the fun of it.
- It’s important to think about the future, but it’s more important to be present in the now. You won’t get the most out of college if you think of it as a stepping stone.
- When you’re living on a college campus with 400 things going on every second of every day, watching TV is pretty much a waste of your time and a waste of your parents’ money. If you’re going to watch, watch with friends so at least you can call it a “valuable social experience.”
- Don’t be afraid to fall in love. When it happens, don’t take it for granted. Celebrate it, but don’t let it define your college experience.
- Much of the time you once had for pleasure reading is going to disappear. Keep a list of the books you would have read had you had the time, so that you can start reading them when you graduate.
- Things that seem like the end of the world really do become funny with a little time and distance. Knowing this, forget the embarassment and skip to the good part.
- Every once in awhile, there will come an especially powerful moment when you can actually feel that an experience has changed who you are. Embrace these, even if they are painful.
- No matter what your political or religious beliefs, be open-minded. You’re going to be challenged over the next four years in ways you can’t imagine, across all fronts. You can’t learn if you’re closed off.
- If you need to get a job, find something that you actually enjoy. Just because it’s work doesn’t mean it has to suck.
- Don’t always lead. It’s good to follow sometimes.
- Take a lot of pictures. One of my major regrets in life is that I didn’t take more pictures in college. My excuse was the cost of film and processing. Digital cameras are cheap and you have plenty of hard drive space, so you have no excuse.
- Your health and safety are more important than anything.
- Ask for help. Often.
- Half of you will be in the bottom half of your class at any given moment. Way more than half of you will be in the bottom half of your class at some point in the next four years. Get used to it.
- In ten years very few of you will look as good as you do right now, so secretly revel in how hot you are before it’s too late.
- In the long run, where you go to college doesn’t matter as much as what you do with the opportunities you’re given there. The MIT name on your resume won’t mean much if that’s the only thing on your resume. As a student here, you will have access to a variety of unique opportunities that no one else will ever have - don’t waste them.
- On the flip side, don’t try to do everything. Balance = well-being.
- Make perspective a priority. If you’re too close to something to have good perspective, rely on your friends to help you.
- Eat badly sometimes. It’s the last time in your life when you can do this without feeling guilty about it.
- Make a complete ass of yourself at least once, preferably more. It builds character.
- Wash your sheets more than once a year. Trust me on this one.
- If you are in a relationship and none of your friends want to hang out with you and your significant other, pay attention. They usually know better than you do.
- Don’t be afraid of the weird pizza topping combinations that your new friend from across the country loves. Some of the truly awful ones actually taste pretty good. Expand your horizons.
- Explore the campus thoroughly. Don’t get caught.
- Life is too short to stick with a course of study that you’re no longer excited about. Switch, even if it complicates things.
- Tattoos are permanent. Be very certain.
- Don’t make fun of prefrosh. That was you like 2 hours ago.
- Enjoy every second of the next four years. It is impossible to describe how quickly they pass.
This is the only time in your lives when your only real responsibility is to learn. Try to remember how lucky you are every day.
Be yourself. Create. Inspire, and be inspired. Grow. Laugh. Learn. Love.
Welcome to some of the best years of your lives.
Everyone seems to be asking me the same question: “Have you done anything exciting yet?” My answer is no. I have been to Korea about 18 times. I am 21 you figure out how much that is over the course of my life up until now. Simply, ITS A LOT! The country is small there is not that many places to go and to see. I have done everything imaginable. I’ve gone to all the big amusement parks, I have gone to JeJudo, I have gone to Soraksan, I have gone to the border to North Korea, I have done countless family vacations to different parts of Korea, I have seen and done everything. When I found out I was coming to Korea this summer I knew I wasn’t going to have an itinerary everyday. Honestly, I needed a break from Virginia and wanted to just go somewhere to relax and breathe. This was my chance to stop thinking about work and things that cloud my mind. I just wanted to mentally prepare myself for the upcoming year and really reflect on myself. This vacation was a retreat…for myself. I needed one on one time with myself and God. Sometimes its easy to get lost in all the peripheral things in our lives and I’ve been lost for quite awhile now and I really wanted to seize this opportunity to start thinking about my future and the role I was going to play in it. So, if you are wondering if I am doing exciting things my answer is no.
Really considering getting my lip pierced…
Sometimes its hard to escape the cage you’ve put yourself in…
My random thoughts and ranting:
-I don’t understand how people can be so rude? Would it kill you to say ‘excuse me’ before shoving me out of your way? Is where you are going so important you have to trample me down? I just don’t understand. I literally got shoved to the wall by a middle school boy and was about to go off on him for one even touching me because I hate being touched by people I don’t know and two for being so rude.
-Everyone says Asian drivers are the worst. Actually in some ways they are way better than the ones in America. They know how to get around small spaces without damaging their car, they know how to park on sidewalks and tight places, and they know how to speed. The reason why I think Asian drivers are so bad is because there is so little regard for the driving laws here. People go through red lights, go opposite ways on one way streets, basically anything imaginable.
-I have this strange thing about touching. I don’t like being overly touched and I don’t like being touched by people I don’t know. It seriously bugs the crap out of me. If I don’t know you why do you have to touch me? I understand its some sort of endearment but I really don’t like it. If you’re not my family or close friend please refrain from touching me while you talk.
-The one thing I always dread when I come to Korea is how single I feel. Its worse than Valentine’s Day. The feeling is constant and its just constantly thrown in my face. So while I feel so single it turns into constantly thinking about boys. Like when am I going to date or marry or thinking about past hook ups. Any type of memory or thought that has to do with a guy thats what is constantly looping in my head. Joy…
-I really value my car. I used to think its just something that takes me from point a to point b. But, when you’re somewhere constantly relying on public transportation and other people driving you it gets annoying. I feel like I’m 13 again and I have to ask my parents to drive me around. It really sucks not being able to just get in my car and drive myself to where I want to go. The other thing that goes along with this is that I have no money here. Again, makes me feel like I’m little and have to ask for allowance. If I want something I want to just buy it without having to ask.
I can’t get over Tom Hardy. The man’s got everything I want.
The man has so much swag.