A lot of people have those stories, the ones about how lost and low they were in life at some point until something happened, a miracle, and everything changed since then. Some believe its their own destiny or by their own will that their life changed for the better but for me I genuinely whole heartily believe God changed my life.

Probably about two months prior I was in my own personal hell. I wasn’t living. I waited for the hours to go by so I could just move on to the next day and the next day til there were no more. I wasn’t suicidal or wishing life would end but I wasn’t living it either.

For about 5 years I’ve been struggling with my past failures and I just couldn’t look beyond them or forgive myself for allowing myself for reaching this new level of low I never experienced before. So each day it ate away at me: at my mind, my self esteem, my pride, my confidence, my body, my relationships, everything I considered to be a part of my identity. It was like a cancer and I gave up on finding the cure. All of this negativity just continued to stack on top of each other. Even the smallest problems I would see it as a result of my past. I was punishing myself without even realizing it. I was such an amazing actress and liar that I could convince everyone around me that I had no real issues or needed help. I looked like a girl with a carefree life and everything came easy to me. It was so easy pretending to be happy and nobody ever questioned its sincerity. It got to a point that I was even convincing myself.

I was riding a never ending roller coaster, I could literally be on a happy high from an awesome retreat and a minute later be completely bummed because I knew it was temporary. This easily could have gone on for the rest of my life but one day towards the end of winter break a light bulb went off in my head. I remember I was just wasting away on my couch watching television and suddenly I realized there was something seriously wrong. I went upstairs to talk to my mom about how ever since I entered college I changed for the worse. Even how the conversation went was different this time. I told her how my negativity couldn’t be changed by just ‘being happy’ or by getting off the couch. We’ve had multiple conversations about my struggles and talked through how to change my future each time but each attempt failed worse than the last. We’re extremely close and having heartfelt conversations occur often but this conversation was unlike anything we’ve ever had before. I felt for the first time she was understanding me. By God’s grace she was thinking as someone who cared for me without all the cultural expectations or doubts. She expressed her regrets as a mother for failing to support me with unconditional love which as a child hits your heart harder than anything in this world. After we talked I prayed a long and hard prayer. I asked God to help me, to really help me. I prayed for him to heal my heart, my mind, to show me what I am capable of, to help me forgive myself and to reconcile with my past. After I prayed I honestly felt let down. I was expecting the heavens to open up and feel some kind of warmth and light, basically the stuff of movies. I felt this was another attempt that would end in failure so going back down to Richmond I had no expectations. I was going to continue to struggle so mind as well start dealing with it. 

But slowly things were changing in my favor. I found this new sense of drive, a conquer the world type of feeling that I once had. I was making daily and future goals for myself. And now I am busy with school, two jobs, and being more social, and I absolutely love it. My days are always filled with something to do when before I could spend a whole day in my apartment being on my laptop. God has blessed me and shown me his true power. The devil was deceiving me with his lies of unworthiness and I kept feeding into it. It was God and God alone that showed me no matter how far I fall away from him he’ll come running after me with open arms and plenty of blessings. He’s shown himself through every aspect of my life. Even in the parts where I didn’t think needed to change he changed it for the better. It seems so cliche to say that God changed my life. I remember hearing it and thinking this is what every Christian says. But, for the first time I witnessed and lived through my first miracle. And now I know God loves me no matter what I do, say, think, or feel. He’s looking out for me because I’m his child and no one else’s. I pray that everyone gets to feel his love because without it life’s meaningless.